Lets Have A Chat About Confidence

Hey, what's up everyone? Welcome back to my blog.  

My apologies for my absence. Life got a little crazy for a moment. I think this is like the 5th time I've written this post, so here goes...

Since my last blog post in May, I've had lots going on (well lots for me anyway). From attending Fashion Week, to Stag dos, Weddings and generally being social. I didn't really have time to think and process all that was going on. I also found that my content was being influenced and taken into the wrong direction. Although not intentional, taking some time out has helped to really refocus and remember why I started my blog in the first place.

Oliver Spencer, London Fashion Week Mens, June 2017

Oliver Spencer, London Fashion Week Mens, June 2017

Stag Do No.1 

Stag Do No.1 

Stag No.2

In this time I've also gotten a Coach. Someone that I can check in with, empty my mind, and help steer me in the right direction. At this point, I want to thank him for that. It's also helped me realise that I need my quiet time. Just in order to get things done, process all the info I've taken in and use it efficiently. With that said, today I want to have a little chat about confidence, most importantly confidence in yourself.

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For months now I've been avoiding posting, both on my blog and my social media and I didn't even realise it. But I worked out (after spending 3 hours alone on a flight back to UK) that it was all because I had no confidence it what or why I was posting or creating. Most importantly I had no confidence in myself or my abilities. I wasn't happy with the content I was producing, I wasn't happy with the way I looked and the way my personal training and blogging businesses were going. All this time I've been telling myself... "It doesn't actually matter", which was code for "if i don't post, know one will notice". That's not what I want. I'm not that person. I love sharing, listening to and helping people, but I listened to my head and gave in to the feelings that I felt. Which lead me down the wrong path. If you've felt this way, I'd love for you to leave a comment below.

Now, having that time to reflect and 'just be' for a second, has made me realise, that i don't have to feel the way I've been feeling. It also made me realise that there is a solution to this. It may not be an easy one, but it's whats I think has helped me. That solution is to just accept those feeling, and believe that you're feeling them for a reason. They're genuine feelings and they matter. Not to anyone who might be watching, but to yourself.

My coach said to me recently,

"You have an open invitation to be a happier and better version of yourself."

So if you are still reading this, this is my invitation to you. I've spent a lot of time skipping myself and forgetting why I do what I do, but you don't have to. Show and express your feelings. This will instantly give you confidence, firstly in how you process those feelings, but secondly, in what you decide to do next. Don't be taken over by your lack of confidence and your fears. Overcome them by accepting and processing them and most of all, do not be afraid to do so. The more you do that, the more you will grow in confidence, as I am. 

As a result I've finally been able to finish this post...with confidence! So I'm back! I'm looking forward to putting some weekly content out again for you guys.

So, thank you for reading, if you got this far! I hope that I've given you a reason to have more confidence in yourself and what you do...remember this is my open invite to you. 

Until next time, live & enjoy life.

Ash x

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