5 Tips To You Help Deflect Negativity & Stay Focused

What's up everyone! Thank you for so much for returning to my blog.

I feel like I haven't posted consistently for a while now. So I’m going to be transparent with you all; I’m still trying to find the balance between working, blogging, studying and everything else in life. This is a problem we all face at some point in our lives and if I’m honest, the last few weeks of feeling this way has really thrown me off my game. Today I’m going to use this post to express my thoughts. I never thought this would be something I could use my blog for, but today I’m thinking...why the hell not.

One of the things I’ve done all my life is let work and my thoughts get on top of me. The nature of my job means, I tend to spend most of my time in the gym. In some senses, I’m very lucky to be still doing a job that helps people and gives them a new lease of life. In turn it also becomes, somewhere I see as a second home. Somewhere comfortable, that I can be myself. But unfortunately, a lot of things at work are changing (and lets be honest...know one really likes change) and it’s having a negative effect on me. Which makes me feel uneasy.

Because of this, I’m forcing myself to do a few things that keep me focused and help me stay on course. This is the time for me to be mentally strong.

Here are a few ways to deflect that negative, uneasy feeling and stay focused.

1. Don’t sweat it

Don’t get sucked in to the negativity that goes on around you. Do what you can to separate yourself from that negative environment. Don’t get me wrong, its easier said than done, but if you can find that little extra bit of focus and positivity, the negatives will become manageable enough to dismiss and deflect. You know that saying…

“You are the average of the 5 people you hang around most”

…It’s more real than you think. If you can choose the people that surround you, choose wisely. Prioritise the positive, deflect the negative, but always stay focused and listen.

2. Be more organised & plan ahead

A lot of the time I find this really difficult! But like we have all known and heard, being organised is a great way to combat those negative feelings in life. If you’re like me and you try to do that ‘spinning plates’ thing, organisation and planning is key. I’ve found that just writing things down and prioritising them is an amazing first step to becoming more organised. Physically writing stuff down is also quite liberating, so put down your phone for a second, dust off the notebook, grab a pen and take that first step.

3. Learn to like failing!

Do not doubt yourself. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from progressing in your work, career or in life.  Think of failure as a learning experience and use the new found knowledge and strength to move closer to that next step. Do not give up.

4. Focus on you

Focus on what YOU can control! Don’t let your environment or the people around you add their two cents into your own thoughts and feelings. They are for you and you alone to control. Look, listen and take in what you must in order to grow and develop into a better version of yourself. Use the people you choose to be around as a support system and an accessory to your success.

5. Work it out

In some sports they say, “leave it out on the field”. My advice is to take any negative energy that you might have, into your workouts. At that point that it all starts to become a bit too much, get out and get a workout in. This will help recharge and clear your mind. Leave all your frustrations and negative thoughts in your workout so you can be more productive throughout the rest of the day. As a bonus, working out has been scientifically proven to put you in a more positive headspace.

I hope this post has been really useful for you. If it has, please comment below and let me know how.

Until next time,


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Backpack - Timberland, Hat and Jeans - River Island, Checked Hoodie - Superdry, Jacket - Bershka

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